Little fostering moments.. You have to love them. They are a huge part of my life.
A child picks up her apple core after watching a Simpsons with the family and puts it in the kitchen pedal bin.
If you foster you'll know that a tiny thing like that can be a monster triumph. A child whose previous home had no sense of tidiness or hygiene can hardly be expected to know that food debris needs to be...
Friday, January 25, 2019
Tuesday, January 22, 2019
FIRST NIGHT NERVES
One of the things that takes a bit of getting used to when you start your fostering career is the feeling you get with each new arrival after bedtime on the first night. There's somebody else's child sleeping in your home!
I've never forgotten a rookie mistake back in my early days. I told the child that if he woke early and was frightened he could knock on our bedroom door and I would get up and...
Thursday, January 17, 2019
USING YOUR NOODLES
I do hope you find these blogs useful and interesting. Maybe they might inspire someone to give fostering a go. I like to hope that.
I find it helpful to write them. They help my understanding of what I try to do in fostering. Having to write it down, I have to focus. It's almost as useful as my supervision visits from my Blue Sky Social Worker. A friend of mine goes to private counselling and estimates...
Friday, January 11, 2019
FOSTERING AND VIRTUE SIGNALLING
This is a not bad joke from Lucy Porter who is a stand-up;
“It’s really hard to define ‘virtue signalling’, as I was saying the other day to some of my Muslim friends over a fair-trade coffee in our local feminist bookshop.”
Virtue signalling is when people mention the good they do.
I slipped it in because us Foster Carer sometimes get to feel that we are virtue signalling when it comes out...
Monday, January 07, 2019
ON THE TWELFTH DAY OF CHRISTMAS...
Every so often a child in fostering gets het up.
Not every child does so, but in my experience a great many do.
Not all the time obviously, or even often.
How could they not, when you think about their lives? I have no illusions that no matter how comfortable and safe my home is, no matter how much care, kindness and even love - yes of course love - I provide, foster children will boil over...