Sunday, May 29, 2022

DIM AND DIMMER

 Saul is now so settled he has his place in our family. This is a situation that we aim for even though it can mean that if and when he goes it'll be a wrench.One of the first things I remember learning at a training session - and making sure I put into practice - is that foster parents should offer attachment to a new child from the moment they walk through the door. Even if the child is only...

Wednesday, May 18, 2022

HOME ALONE

In fostering you can't help but become wondrous at the mysteries of the mind, especially the mind of a child. The mind of a child who's been to hell and back is something to behold. And if you're going to do any good for a crumpled kid you have to get curious about what goes on between their ears.Digging down while respecting the child's privacy is always fascinating and almost always useful. It's...

Thursday, May 12, 2022

FOSTER PARENTS V REAL PARENTS

 One of the non-stop issues/problems in fostering is when the child in your care starts to think about the calibre of their real parents. and the quality of life in their real home.They don't ask straight out in my experience. They sort of hint that they're starting to see things for themselves.But the question starts to arise once they notice - if they ever do, because some don't - that the...